Kamal, stylist and founder of EleganceFeminine.com
I want to share some important strategies that will help you become the best version of your already incredible self.
Read on to discover how to take your style to another level and improve your dating and professional life, with help from my years of experience and training in personal development, coaching, and dating – as well as my passion for fashion and inside knowledge of the fashion industry.
Have you ever been afraid to approach a guy and ask him out? Or maybe you held back and didn’t fight for that promotion at work?
Things like this happen to most people, and at the root of them is a lack of confidence. Even if you love yourself, you may need a few more confidence boosts to really let yourself shine.
Growing up, fashion played a big role in my life. My grandfather taught me how amazing a tailored suit can make you feel, from early on. In college, I made a name for myself by wearing colorful ties (really). Now, years later, I’m the owner of two fashion-related businesses, Glamorous Pochette and Meqnes.
Most importantly, I know that what you wear has a lot of power. The right kind of clothes and accessories – not to mention things like haircut – can improve your confidence in surprising ways.
I want to tell you about my friend, Tina.
She’s an amazing, funny, smart woman with lots of friends and a lot of interesting things to say. But even though she has so much going for her, she still can’t seem to find “the one” or get a promotion at work.
Tina asked for my advice, so we sat down and thought about what might be holding her back. After a while, we realized that what’s lacking her life might be style. She’s not a bad dresser, but she never looks completely put-together. She doesn’t stand out from the crowd in any way, and her clothes don’t bring out her best features.
Together, we defined what her personal style was and made sure she was wearing clothes that projected that, not just random items of clothing that she felt nothing about.
Her new, improved style was clean, neat, and flattered her body type – but most importantly, it projected something about her personality. Suddenly, people started to turn their heads when we went out together. Men started to approach her.
Not only that; Tina felt more self-confident. This pushed her to put herself out there more. She socialized more and got to a point where she wasn’t afraid to approach a man at a bar or take the lead in a group project at work.
By reflecting on her style and any personal issues she might have, she was able to figure out what was missing, and invite success into her life.
Tina is currently dating a guy she thinks might be “the one” and just got a raise at work. You could laugh and say it’s funny that dressing better totally changed her life, but of course, that’s just part of it.
My method is about recognizing yourself and understanding how to love yourself and put your best foot forward (in a great-looking shoe) when you walk out into the world.
Maybe you feel like Tina used to.
Maybe your personal or professional life – or both – isn’t going anywhere and you can’t quite figure out why.
Or maybe you know that you don’t have enough self-confidence.
This is understandable, especially today, when we’re bombarded by Photoshopped images that tell us how to look, and social media stars who seem to be living the perfect, flawless life. But when you turn the gaze on yourself, you have to see potential.
There’s something special about you, something you can share with the world and “wow” people with. Tina was in a rut before she realized that and made some changes. Now, she’s really come into her own. And so can you.
Let’s start right now. Here are five ways to boost your self-confidence:
1. Dress your best by finding your body type.
There are seven basic body types: the 8, the X, the A, the V, the H, the 0, and the O. Once you know which category you fall into, you can find tips (like the ones in my book, Love Your Clothes, Love Yourself: The Élégance Féminine Guide to Dressing for Success) to bring out your best features and minimize others. When you feel like your clothes fit well and flatter you, you’ll feel a big difference – trust me. You’ll start carrying yourself differently and feel more confident when you step outside your door.
2. Define your style.
You may already have a personal style that you’re proud of. If you don’t, think about what you think looks good. You might consider a celebrity whose wardrobe you wish you had. In my book, I list twelve styles, inspired by a survey I gave my readers. See if one of them makes you think of your own style preferences:
– J-Lo’s style
– Beyoncé’s style
– Michelle Obama’s style
– Mix of styles
Once you’ve decided on the way you want to look and the image you want to project to the world, consider your current wardrobe. In addition to being clean and in good condition, your clothes should reflect these things. When you buy new clothes, always keep that in mind. And remember, buying new clothes is possible on any budget, whether you head to the thrift store or a high-end department store.
3. Stop comparing yourself to other people.
`Instead, focus on your own accomplishments and goals. Don’t look at your friend’s seemingly perfect Facebook or Instagram, where she’s got the perfect guy, the perfect family, the perfect style, the dream job.
How does that affect you in any way, except to make you feel inadequate and maybe jealous?
Instead, take a look at your life. It may not be perfect (and remember, no one’s is, no matter how good things look online), but what have you achieved? Celebrate even small accomplishments. See them as a milestone on the path to your own personal fulfilment. By the way, doing this will not only make you feel more confident – it will also keep you paying attention to what’s really important when it comes to living a fulfilling life.
4. Face and embrace failure.
This may sound counterintuitive, but think about it: When it comes to expressing yourself and taking chances, what’s holding you back? A lot of it comes down to a fear of failure. No one likes to be rejected in love, or passed over for a promotion at work.
But being able to accept that these things might happen will help you deal with them better when and if they actually occur.
Failure can also teach you some valuable lessons, like what you might have done to avoid a certain outcome.
When it comes to failure, here are some things to ask yourself:
– What will actually happen if I’m rejected by this person (they refuse to talk to me, hire me, buy my product, don’t like me, etc.)?
– Are there any risks to my health?
– Will this impact my life in a profound way?
– Will it matter next week? Next month? Next year?
– Do I really think that others will share one person’s opinion?
– Have I ever been successful?
– Why do I always anticipate the worst?
– Isn’t failure an experience, helping to make me better?
– Why do I attach so much importance to the reaction of the person I’m talking to, especially if I am being respectful towards them?
5. Talk to yourself.
The Coué Method is an old trick that’s been around for more than a century. The idea is to tell yourself positive things, at least twice a day. Coué himself recommended the phrase “Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.” But if you don’t like that one, make up something you need to hear.
Another confidence-boosting technique is one used by Navy SEALS. Whenever they have a negative or discouraging thought, they put a positive spin on it. So, “I’m worried about this” becomes “I’ve got this.” If you’re surprised that both psychologists and people in the military use these techniques, you shouldn’t be – numerous studies have shown that autosuggestion has real effects. So why not give it a try?
But you’re a guy, why should I listen to you?
You might be thinking, “I may want to improve my self-confidence, but what does a guy know about being a woman?”
As a personal development and relationship coach, I’ve helped hundreds of women (and men) find success, love, and positivity in their lives. My books on seduction, relationships, and dressing for success have changed the lives of readers around the world.
More importantly, we’re all human beings. I’ve had times in my life when I’ve doubted myself, when I didn’t have the confidence to ask out the person I was attracted to, when I got passed over for a raise or promotion or award.
Improving my self-confidence has changed my life, and I want to share the techniques that were helpful to me, so that I can help you change your life for the better, too.
Why I wrote this book for you
I recently conducted a survey of my female readers, and the results were telling.
When asked what the major problem they had with their style was, an impressive number of them replied, “Nothing.” Whether it’s classic, street, trendy, chic, vintage, or something else, most of these women have a distinct style, and they don’t want to change it.
But more than 83% of them had some aspects of their style that they wanted to improve.
Sometimes it’s simply a question of knowing what to wear to flatter your body. Maybe you’re worried about your hairstyle. Maybe it all comes down to budget issues. Luckily, none of these are problems that can’t be fixed. That’s what I’m going to show you in this book.
« Love Your Clothes, Love Yourself: The Élégance Féminine Guide to Dressing for Success » is about upping your style game – not about changing it or adapting it to someone else. It’s also not an incentive to lose weight, get surgery, or look any particular way.
The most attractive thing in the world is confidence. If you truly feel you look and are being your best, you’ll be happier, more open to the world, and more likely to find success in love and life.
This book has three main goals:
1. teaching you how to up your style game for dating,
2. helping you dress your best for professional success, and
3. increasing your self-confidence through style and introspection.
I once dated a woman who had a terrible sense of style. Although she was beautiful and had a great personality, I was so turned off by how she dressed. I couldn’t imagine having her by my side at a party or gala.
That might sound shallow to you, but remember: in addition to enjoying them, I go to galas and parties to network and develop my businesses…which are in the personal development and fashion fields. Dressing well isn’t just a personal interest and passion of mine; my career depends on it.
When I got back home after one of our dates, I was devastated. This woman was absolutely amazing when it came to her personality, but style0wise, it was a complete disaster. I just couldn’t pretend to ignore the facts.
So this got me thinking… there must be thousands and thousands of women out there missing out on glorious opportunities because they may not know how to dress to their fullest advantage. It’s similar to amazing guys I know who, are totally charming gentlemen, but are way too shy to go talk to a woman and initiate that first contact.
What a waste!
I took all this as a sign. I’ve written several books on dating, and have launched two major fashion brands, Glamorous Pochette and Meqnes. It was only a matter of time for me to start writing a book about fashion AND dating!
In fact, I’ve already written one book about style for men, and it was a tremendous success. So, I thought, why not write something for women?
I decided to take an hour a night to work on this book. Now, I’ve finally finished. I’m very excited to present Love Your Clothes, Love Yourself: The Élégance Féminine Guide to Dressing for Success.
Here’s what you’ll find in this book:
- The secret connection between how you dress and how confident you feel
- How to dress your best, based on your body type
- Why it’s important to define your personal style – and how to define it
- How to combine your body type and your personal style, to look better than you ever have before
- How to build your wardrobe, from essentials for each of the twelve personal styles, to shopping advice for any budget
- Why finding the perfect haircut is about more than what looks good in a magazine: How to use your face shape and hair type to find yours
- How to find the right makeup and look for your face – and use it to bring out your favorite features
- The two most important makeup rules
- The four kinds of shoes every woman must own, adapted to your personal style (and how to make them work their magic for you)
- How to find the right pair of heels and be comfortable, physically, mentally, and maybe even spiritually, while wearing them
- Finding the perfect bag, and how it can make you look like a million bucks (no matter how much you spent on it)
- Why personal hygiene is about more than just looking (and smelling) good
- Strategies for applying perfume in just the right spots, and making it last
- What you need to know about body hair, whether you prefer to be all-natural or totally bare
- Crucial things to consider when buying underwear and bras
- How exactly your self-esteem and success in dating or at work are linked
- Eight ways to boost your self-confidence so that you can be your best self
- Once you’re feeling confident, how to project that self-confidence in romantic and professional situations, not to mention life in general
- Failure plays a role in your self-confidence – how to accept and use it to help you succeed in the long run
- How failure can teach you to nail your next date or meeting
- Some things you might not have considered when it comes to getting dressed for a first date
- Fashion faux pas that could spell disaster for a first date
- Do’s and don’ts that will help you have a great first date (and other dates to follow)
- How to seduce a man, including conversation, confidence, and my own S&S Method
- Great questions to break the ice when approaching a guy or on a date
- The signs that say a guy’s not worth it
- Why how you dress is important in your professional life, no matter what job you have (yes, even if you work from home)
- How to dress professionally without sacrificing your personal style
- Twelve unique workplace looks for twelve different personal styles
- From the conference table, to the (business) dinner table, what to wear in different professional situations so that you’ll be comfortable, look appropriate, and feel confident
That may all sound great, but is this book really for you?
Maybe you read some of those bullet points and thought they might be interesting or helpful, but you’re a confident woman already. You have a steady job and are dating, so do you really need to read this?
I think it comes down to what you want. Are you currently completely satisfied with your life? Do you think you’re as self-confident as you should be? Do you feel like your style game is at 100%? If you answered “yes” to all of those, move along, no need to read on. But if you had even the slightest doubt, I think I might be able to help you reach your fullest potential.
Okay, so I may need help to become my best self – but why this book?
I know, there are a lot of self-help books and fashion guides out there. Like, a lot. But trust me, if mine wasn’t different from the rest, I wouldn’t have sat down and written it.
Unlike most of those other books, this one isn’t about changing you. I’m not here to tell you that you have to conform to a certain aesthetic or do certain things in order to get what you want. I know you’re special, and you probably know that, too. The women I surveyed certainly did.
This book doesn’t tell you what to change or how to change it – it tells you how to take the best parts of yourself and make them even better.
No matter who you are, what you look like, what your personal style is, what your budget is, how much or little self-esteem you already have, what victories and defeats you’ve had in your romantic and professional life, there is something here for you.
It might be a ton of helpful, practical tips, or simply some grains of truth that resonate with you – either way, I’m convinced that this book will help you improve your life.
Priceless help for a low price
To improve their style and self-confidence, a person might think about consulting a stylist, coach, personal shopper, or therapist – maybe even all of them. They would spend a small fortune. But with this one book, you get advice, inspiration, and introspective questions, all in one place, and for a small place.
For one week, I’m offering Love Your Clothes, Love Yourself: The Élégance Féminine Guide to Dressing for Success for just $19.95.
That’s thousands of hours’ worth of experience in fashion and coaching, for close to nothing.
Even if you’ve missed the seven-day deadline, the price is only $29.95 — so much less than you would spend with a therapist, coach, stylist, or personal shopper.
Everything to gain, nothing to risk
I want you to be satisfied. If you’re not—you’ll get your money back.
That means… you get 60 days to try Love Your Clothes, Love Yourself: The Élégance Féminine Guide to Dressing for Success. If it doesn’t work for you — shoot me an email and I will refund you the full amount you payed. No question asked. Really.
And guess what? You get to keep the book with you. That’s fine with me and I’m not going to ask you to delete it (who are we kidding?).
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So, do you want to keep living a life where you feel like you’re missing out?
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The choice is yours.
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